"Oh You Have a Kid..."

It is so hilarious when I meet a guy who is showing some interest in me, with time as we continue to get acquainted, I break it to him that I am actually a mother. It takes less than 3minutes between the shocked/disappointed facial expressions, trying to remain calm and deciding that it is not worth it and bolting out the nearest exit. It cracks me up every time. At least it is an easy way for me to sieve out false starts before I take him seriously only to be disappointed.

I wear the title SINGLE MOTHER like a badge of honor. Anyway, as mentioned before, I am already a statistic. I love Sonny to bits and since he is already here,  I am no longer just single I come with a package i.e. its a combo deal. So if a man cannot stand the heat he might as well get out of the kitchen!

So why do guys behave like cowards, yet they want to be respected. I say this in reference to men who are like SG (Sonny's dad). Its so easy for them to impregnate, so easy to recommend abortion, but so hard to be a father. Is responsibility that hard?? Or is responsibility wired into a woman's DNA but an acquired thing for men? These are the questions I ask myself. I see and hear stories of guys who sit back and wait for their wives to bring home the bacon. If this is a short term arrangement caused by job loss, illness e.t.c It's understandable, after all marriage is a team sport but if its a permanent thing where the lazy, couch potato man takes advantage of his hard working wife that's a whole other story... anyway I digress.

The other day I met a guy who had the charm of a prince and the swagga of a Knight in shinning armour. Needless to say I was smitten. From experience I know the existence of Sonny should come as a by the way a few dates later. I know a man reading this may be shaking his head and thinking that women are liars and wait for a man to invest emotionally so that the man is cornered. But that is not the case. I have learnt that the guys I meet although they show up for our 'dates' scouting for the possibility of a relationship, the revelation of Sonny in most cases results in a beautiful friendship.

I hope one of these days I will met a brave man who will love me for me, a combo deal, until then I will continue going for dates and acquiring friends, after all there is no such thing as having too many friends.