Single Mothers are Worse Than Married woman

Today I was listening to a hot debate that was raging on radio that single mothers are worse parents than married mothers. The debate had been raised by a single mother whose neighbor (a married woman) does not allow their children to play together, reason being since the single mother's child does not have a father, the little girl should be some sought of outcast. I couldn't help but wonder who thinks like that in the 21st century??

But before we get all judgmental on the neighbor let us examine some of our everyday behaviors. 

Recently, there was an interesting court case where four sisters have sued their brother for taking possession of their father's property claiming that since he was the only boy he had a right to the property (both parents were deceased). The man was arguing that the sisters would get married and have rights to their husbands properties. Suppose one of his sisters was a single mother, whose property would she have rights to?

It is very unfortunate that despite the fact that the government has introduced free primary education with the sole purpose of reducing illiteracy levels and thereby hoping to improving how we think and possibly our interactions with the rest of the world, there are still people who think in the same way our ancestors thought. And by the way they are very good at pointing out the spek in a single mother's eye and forgetting the log in theirs.

One married women called into the radio station first bragging that she had the perfect marriage, then expressing her disgust on single motherhood...you would think that the callers were crucifying their neighborhood prostitute. "Nyumba yenye haina mwanaume ni nyumba ya umalaya - A house without a man is a whore-house". These comments were uncalled for, considering that motherhood is universally a hard job be it in marriage or not. Another man called in and commented "kwani huo dame alpo panua miguu ovyo ovyo alikua ana fikiria aje - what was the single mother thinking when she was spreading her legs carelessly". I mean, even the lingo used is derogatory. Or does it mean that married women have sex with their legs tightly crossed? No offence, but how come no one blames the irresponsible idiot who took off at the first sign of responsibility? Why can't they blame him for not keeping his instrument firmly out of trouble? Or he was just a lucky passerby? 

I don't expect society to sympathise with a single mother because single motherhood is not a disability, all am asking is for married women to shed off their holier-than-thou attitude.

Life is not only unpredictable but fate has a way of making a person eat their words.

Suppose this very married woman one day discovered that actually her 'perfect' husband was actually a father to other children outside their 'perfect' marriage, what would she say then? Suppose life and its circumstances resulted in her getting a divorce from her husband, wouldn't she be a single mother who is a divorcee all in one?  What would be her sentiments then?
Until something has happened to you, one cannot fully comprehend how much composure it takes to reorganize and then try and make life as normal as possible.

Children born to single mothers need a father figure and to be accepted as children, no strings or tags attached such as illegitimate which means criminal/dishonest. If anything the person to blame is solely the father for not taking care of his family which is his God-given role on this earth.